As pandemic lockdowns swept the US, here’s how some found the silver linings
We all have a photo or video of that last time we gathered with friends at a crowded bar or had a family gathering indoors. A time before mask-wearing, hand sanitizing and social distancing became second nature to us as we tried to keep ourselves and our loved ones safe and healthy from the novel coronavirus.
CNN asked you what your pandemic silver lining has been and here’s what we heard:
She parted ways with her law firm, so she started her own
Connection and trust bring Lizette Cortez, 31, closer to her clients.
The immigration lawyer from Texas told CNN those have been some of her guiding principles throughout her career and ultimately, what pushed her to open her own law firm in the beginning months of the coronavirus pandemic.
And though opening up your own law firm is no easy feat, after parting ways with another firm, Cortez knew that one door closed so that another door could open. Literally. And so, with the support of her husband and her mom, Carolina, she started taking on clients of her own remotely from the Dallas-Fort Worth area.
“I had already been thinking about branching out on my own, so I’m really thankful that it happened,” Cortez said.
With the world shut down and with the couple saving money from not traveling, eating out, she said they really had time to plan and research how she would make her next move.
“I started working remotely and it wasn’t working,” she said. “Immigrants don’t like to work remotely, the Zooms, they just don’t work, they like to see you face-to-face and in person.”
“Immigration is such a connection … they’re (immigrants) just not very trusting and our culture very much is all about your gut feeling and really meeting somebody is so important to them.”
And who better to understand the immigrant experience than Cortez herself. Her dad started working for US Immigration and Customs and Enforcement in 2003. Her mom Carolina entered the US by claiming asylum after the civil war in El Salvador and got her green card through her dad in 2005.
“I grew up very, very poor, we lived in a 300-square foot, public-assisted housing (in Texas) with five brothers and sisters,” Cortez said. “At the time, there were six of us total in our house, my two brothers, my sister and myself and my parents.”
Cortez said her family lived a fairly comfortable life after her dad started working for ICE, but money was still tight.
“You never cry over money, money comes and goes, we will find a way,” Cortez’s dad used to tell her.
Those words have followed Cortez throughout her journey which is why now, as a lawyer, she says it’s really not about the paycheck. Instead, she focuses on being able to help and give back to the immigrant community.
“I am that person who will answer your questions,” she said. “I am so much more effective by myself than I ever have been with staff because it eliminates the confusion and the anger.”
Cortez opened a physical office in Grapevine, Texas, and is exploring a second office in Fort Worth to reach a wider net of clients. Right now, she has about 55 cases on her plate and her first client was her own mom. She helped her with her citizenship in August. It was approved in January and her oath ceremony was on February 6.
Last week, Carolina moved to Dallas to join her daughter’s firm as an administrative assistant and will be her first and only employee.
They waited years to become a family of three
Brandon and Robert Schulz-Koller know the heartbreak that comes with waiting for an adoption opportunity to pan out.
The couple of nine years said they’ve always wanted a child and in November 2018, they finalized their paperwork and began the adoption process to turn that dream into a reality.
The Schulz-Kollers waited for three years and had about 20 heartbreaking opportunities that didn’t pan out, according to Brandon.
“You go from your high of highs one day and low of lows the next,” Brandon said. “Your hope kind of started to dwindle. You don’t get your hopes up anymore.”
On March 11, 2020, their luck changed. They got a call from their adoption agency about another opportunity. Brandon said he knew something was different. This time, the birth mom picked them.
Their dream finally came true proving their patience paid off.
Baby Kobe was born in Tampa, Florida, and the Schulz-Kollers were living in Buffalo, New York — more than 1,200 miles apart.
Brandon remembers the adoption agency calling and warning that due to the coronavirus pandemic, there was a possibility that state borders could shutdown. The agency said if the couple couldn’t get to Florida, there would be nowhere for Kobe to go and they’d be forced to find him another family.
Despite the daunting reality, the dads-to-be packed up their car and headed to Florida.
“I was just emptying the drawers of the nursery and the baby had the biggest suitcase possible in the car,” Brandon said. “I was taking everything because we didn’t know how long we were going to be in Florida.” For weeks, the couple lived in their friend’s living room in Florida waiting for their son to be born. During that time, the Schulz-Kollers met Kobe’s birth mom and finally, on April 7, they welcomed Kobe into the world.
As for the name Kobe, Brandon would be the first to tell you his family doesn’t watch sports, except for the occasional Buffalo Bills game.
And although during this time of quarantine so may have been staying indoors, Brandon said he’s cherished this time with their happy baby who is now learning to crawl.
Brandon, who works in health care, says coworkers frequently ask him for pictures of Kobe. He enjoys sharing photos to bring joy to others, especially those who’ve felt isolated during 2020.
“2020 has been such a hard year for so many people; I see it in coworkers’ eyes. I see it in nurses’ eyes that I worked with on a regular basis, on what they’ve been through,” Brandon said. “Really, Kobe has just made 2020 the best year for us.”
“Bringing this human connection to people to hopefully bring them some hope, even in the darkest of times, when the world is shutting down, dreams can come true.”
She decluttered her diet and dropped over 80 pounds
Diets are hard. Working out can be even harder. Especially at a time where gyms were closed and the world was encouraged to stay at home to stop the spread of the coronavirus.
But that didn’t stop Adrienne Shubin, 53, from working on her weight loss goal. A goal that came about after she contracted dengue fever from a trip to Tahiti in January.
Coming off the heels of vacation, being sick for over a week and the coronavirus on the horizon, Shubin said she was motivated to make some lifestyle changes to protect herself.
“It was a project that I could focus on instead of doom scrolling, trying to figure out what my chances were of dying if I got Covid,” she said. “It gave me something good in my life that I could work on and it was kind of like my little project.”
“I just decided whatever this thing was that was coming, I needed to be healthier, I wanted to prepare myself for it and I knew that continuing the trajectory I was on was not going to get me to that place,” Shubin said. “So I seized the opportunity of having 11 days already to make it 30 and quit the drinking and start thinking about what I was consuming.”
Thirty days turned into 60 and now over a year later, Shubin and her husband are fully dedicated to living an alcohol-free lifestyle with an emphasis on maintaining their weight and being fit.
Shubin lives in Kenwood, California, located in the upper part of the Sonoma Valley, and said living in wine country made it a bit harder to eliminate alcohol in the past.
“There is a culture here in wine country,” she said. “I live a stone throw away from well-known wineries and I’ve worked in a winery and have friends who are winemakers and winery owners … it’s just … it becomes a big part of your life.”
After trying a variety of diets from Keto to Atkins, nothing seemed to be sustainable for Shubin until she found Noom in May, a health and wellness program that helped her kick things into high gear in tandem with intermittent fasting.
With alcohol absent in her life, the weight also began to disappear. Shubin is 6’2 and started at 235 pounds, her goal initially was 180, which she reached last summer. Now she’s in the high 140’s, she said.
“It was a gift, just this opportunity to press the reset button and it was a huge wake-up call,” she said.
Shubin reached her goal weight a few months ago but said she kept up with the program and plans to so that she can reinforce and solidify the healthy habits she’s picked up.
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