Harley Street psychologist reveals simple techniques to make yourself more charismatic
How to make anyone like you in MINUTES: Harley Street psychologist reveals techniques celebrities use to appear more charming – including ‘talking with your hands’ and cutting out ‘filler words’
Dr Richard Reid teaches classes on how to be more charismatic on Harley StreetTips include striking power poses, not saying ‘um’, and mirroring body languageSaid using hands while speaking will put people at ease and help your words out Tells FEMAIL the top 10 ways to win someone over including using their name
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A Harley Street psychologist has revealed the simple techniques used by celebrities to come across as more charming and likeable.
Richard Reid, who teaches classes on how to ne more charismatic, revealed that calling someone by their name, having good posture and avoiding using ‘um’ and ‘like’ are the best ways to charm someone you’re trying to win over.
The therapist, who previously treated A-listers at The Priory, said that mirroring someone’s body language and telling stories also helps in becoming your most charismatic self.
Speaking exclusively to FEMAIL, Richard said Kim Kardashian, George Clooney, Beyonce, David Beckham and Madonna are some of the most charismatic people in the public.
A Harley Street psychologist has revealed the simple techniques used by celebrities to come across as more charming and likeable. Dr Richard Reid, who teaches classes on how to ne more charismatic, revealed that calling someone by their name, having good posture and avoiding using ‘um’ and ‘like’ are the best ways to charm someone you’re trying to win over.
‘All of these people are regarded as charismatic for similar reasons; a combination of physical attractiveness, dress sense, but more importantly perhaps, excellence within their chosen field, positive energy and a perceived ability to be able to exert influence (in other words, power),’ he explained.
‘In many ways, we are drawn to them because they embody many of our aspirations both in terms of the pursuit of beauty and excellence, but also because they embody a way of life that captures people’s imagination.
‘Power is especially alluring, as it taps into a basic human need for safety and reassurance.
‘Moreover, in the case of George Clooney and David Beckham, these individuals also suggest a degree of humility and warmth which means that they not only validate and elevate people with whom they come into direct contact but also make others identify with them more readily.’
Here, Richard exclusively reveals the best ways to become more charismatic in minutes…
Talk with your hands
‘People who speak with their hands are perceived as more trustworthy and appealing according to studies.
‘One of the first areas we look at when meeting someone new is their hands.
‘Evolutionists explain it was crucial for human survival in our “hunter-gatherer” days to make sure they were not carrying a weapon.
‘Using hand gestures not only puts others at ease, but also helps you communicate better.
‘It’s called “embodied cognition” meaning there’s a strong correlation between what your mind is trying to say, and your body movements.
‘Hand gestures help the words come out.
Richard says people who speak with their hands are perceived as more trustworthy and appealing according to studies. Kim Kardashian-West is pictured while hosting SNL where she notably used her hands during her monologue
Use their name
‘It’s the sweetest sound to the ears — hearing your own name.
‘Scientists using fMRI found that unique parts of the brain were activated when people heard their own name.
‘Using someone’s name makes them feel significant, and the fact that you’ve remembered it wins respect and admiration.
‘When someone makes an introduction, take extra care in remembering their name and then use it in the conversation.
Watch your posture
‘Slouching is known as a “low-power pose”.
‘It will make you feel less confident, and you’ll be perceived as reserved and unapproachable.
‘Changing your physical posture will change your psychology.
‘Standing tall and taking a “high-power pose” causes your brain to release dopamine, making you feel better and be more confident.
Richard added that standing tall and taking a “high-power pose” causes your brain to release dopamine, making you feel better and be more confident. Beyonce is pictured making a power pose
Listen and ask questions
‘The ancient Greeks had a saying, “We should listen twice as much as we speak because we have two ears and one mouth.”
‘People enjoy sharing their life stories; giving someone a platform to do this by asking questions and listening instead of dominating the floor will make you the kind of person others want to be around.
Cut out fillers and vocalized pauses
‘Vocalized pauses (‘ahh,’ ‘umm’) and fillers (‘like,’ ‘you know’) will severely cramp your communication.
‘Charismatic people are eloquent and articulate, and that comes from ironing out your speaking skills’.
‘Be a fly on the wall to your own conversations and note how often you use fillers and vocalized pauses.
‘They’re often used when we’re unsure of what to say. Simply replace them with silence as you look for your next word.
‘You’ll unclutter your speech and be a more charismatic speaker.
Mirroring
‘Humans possess an interesting thing called ‘mirror-neurons.’
‘We’re social creatures and wired for community and relationships; mirroring allows you to empathize and connect through naturally mimicking the body movements of people you engage with.
‘It’s often unconscious — think of the last time you just crossed your arms at the same time the other person did.
‘Subtly mirroring the stance and body language of whoever you’re conversing with will make them more comfortable and increase rapport.
Richard went on: ‘Subtly mirroring the stance and body language of whoever you’re conversing with will make them more comfortable and increase rapport’. David Beckham is pictured with mirroring Victoria’s body language
Compliments
‘Compliments have been shown to boost people’s self-esteem by up to 34 percent.
‘Being charismatic has much to do with how you make others feel.
‘Give someone the “warm fuzzies” next time you’re having a conversation — identify one thing that you could make a nice comment about.
Initiate and introduce yourself
‘It’s common to see most people stand back and be hesitant at social and networking events.
‘Charismatic people take the initiative to introduce themselves and spark a conversation. It shows confidence through being active rather than passive.
‘Take the first step at your next event. Set aside any fear of judgment and any self-consciousness.
