Mother relives her agony at how her boyfriend shook her 16-month-old baby to death

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The mother of a baby girl who was shook to death by a man she had met on a dating website weeks earlier has said that she will be haunted by the loss of her child forever.

Illegal puppy breeder Kamran Haider, 39, was heard to slap Nusayba Umar and tell her to ‘shut up’ by her mother Asiyah Amazir.

The little girl had a fit later that day and was taken to King’s College Hospital with life-threatening head injuries.

Her brain injury was so severe life support was withdrawn four days later.

In a victim impact statement, Ms Amazir wrote: ‘Nusayba was subjected to the most horrible experiences at the hands of this man towards the end of her life’, according to the Sun.

She added: ‘I will never forget the events that led to her death for as long as I live. I vividly remember the things she suffered and that noise she made on the last day of her life will haunt me forever.

‘There are also the other more obvious effects of this awful crime committed against my daughter.

‘Things like I will never get to see her grow up, hear her first full sentence, see her first day at school, her first tooth loss, her first proper tantrum and all of the other beautiful milestones that a mother witnesses throughout her children’s lives.’

‘Something as simple as changing her nappy or doing her laundry is now a heart breaking memory for me and these are just some of the life-long impacts of this crime that I’m able to verbalise.

‘There are a million more things I am not able to think of words for, to be able to really explain the immediate and life-long impacts of my daughter being murdered, not just for me but also for the rest of her family and we will have to live with these things for the rest of our lives.’

Haider had attacked an ex-girlfriend’s toddler in a locked bathroom 15 years before he killed Nusabya.

He denied murder and blamed his girlfriend but was convicted of the charge by an Old Bailey jury today.

Haider was also convicted of child cruelty.

He decided not to attend court for the verdicts as Mrs Justice Cheema-Grubb adjourned sentence until Wednesday (30) and said: ‘I would like to give him a chance to be here to be sentenced.’

Haider, also known as Kamran, was seeing a girlfriend in Manchester when he met Ms Amazir through a dating website a month before Nusayba’s death.

She moved into to his home in Colinton Road, Ilford, east London, to help with the illegal puppy-breeding business he was running from the back garden.

‘He was an unlicensed dog breeder and at the time when they met he was also looking for help with that business,’ said Ed Brown, prosecuting.

‘She agreed to move in to Colinton Road to assist with the day-to-day routine of looking after the dogs and, in due course the puppies.

‘It seems that this arrangement also involved, to start with, some physical relationship between the two – although it was the fact that the defendant had a girlfriend in Manchester.

‘Ms Amazir believed her efforts would be rewarded following the sale of puppies, they were valuable, the dogs, and reasonably significant, the money involved.’

The court heard Haider was strict and abusive with Nusayba, hitting her on the hands and putting her in stress positions.

When Ms Amazir tried to stop him, he slapped her and say she was too soft with her daughter.

Mr Brown said: ‘He would use abusive language towards her.

‘He started using ‘time out’ discipline for periods upwards of 30 minutes, making Nusayba stay in a corner.

‘He would hit Nusayba on the hand whilst she was in ‘time out’; he would make her adopt various ‘stress’ positions; and would slap Ms Amazir if she tried to intervene.

‘The defendant appeared to justified this by accusing Ms Amazir of being too soft, telling her that Nusayba would ‘grow up to be a pussy’.

The mother was packing up her belongings to move out when Nusayba was killed.

Ms Amazir said: ‘I heard him say: ‘Shut up Nusayba’ and I heard him hit her.

‘It was two or three times. I heard him slap, it was like an impact sound. Then I heard her make this really strange yelping noise.

‘I knew he had hit her quite hard.

‘She wasn’t herself, she wouldn’t take the bottle from me, I took her downstairs to a room nobody really used.

‘I thought I need to get her out of here, he’s not just doing the time outs, he’s hitting her behind my back, he’s actually beating her.’

Mr Brown asked her: ‘Why had you not left before?’

Ms Amazir said tearfully: ‘I wanted to go quietly so he wouldn’t come after me.

‘She just started fitting, her eyes were going left, her legs were straight, and she wouldn’t respond to me.

‘I needed to get her out, she needed help.

‘He could see it himself, of course he could.

‘I was trying to get him to admit that he hit her, he didn’t know that I knew. I wanted him to think ‘Oh my God what have I done.’

‘I was scared. I was scared of him, I was scared of the repercussions, I was scared of what he would do, if I told them he would come after me.

‘I would never hurt one of my babies, my daughter is everything to me.’

Ms Amazir had sobbed as she described how Haider would punish her daughter by putting her in a stress position.

Haider would force Nusayba to stand in an adapted form of the ‘Murga’ punishment, used in parts of Asia including India and Pakistan.

This involved making making her squat and looping her arms behind their knees, with her hands over her ears, the court heard.

Ms Amazir said: ‘He became quite aggravated at the fact that she obviously needed more attention.

‘She had just started walking.

‘He would start shouting ‘You’re spending too much time on the baby!’

‘She would cry, he would start shouting ‘She needs to learn now, Nusayba, she needs to learn’

‘He would put her in this position, they used to do it to kids in the mosque in Pakistan.

‘She couldn’t stay squatted, she was quite unstable, this was when I really started to try to intervene.

‘In the corner anything from 5 minutes to 30, 40 minutes at times.

‘He would call her b-stard, c-nt, he really likes that word.

‘He would slap me round the back of my head, the words he uses, the language he uses, it’s quite intense.

‘I never understood, he used to take her hair tie out. He said she doesn’t deserve to look pretty when she is in time-out.

‘She hated him, you could see it in her face, she wouldn’t eat anything from him, she wouldn’t smile at him, she wouldn’t even look at him.

‘At that point I was just trying to get out, I was doing everything to get her out, I couldn’t make any moves while she was still there.’

Two weeks before Haider had told Ms Amazir that her daughter had fallen over and hurt her head but became enraged when she tried to call an ambulance, the court heard.

He insisted on getting the child a taxi to the hospital and Nusayba was detained overnight.

Ms Amazir got a call from Haider saying Nusayba had fallen over and hit her head in the kitchen while he was feeding his dogs on 28 August 2019.

She messaged Nusayba’s father Muhammed Umar on 10 September 2019 to say he should have permanent custody of Nusayba.

Ms Amazir said:’I told him he needs to take her, but I didn’t tell him why.’

When he was arrested and interviewed Haider denied any physical contact with the little girl and insisted he had never assaulted her.

He claimed in interview that Ms Amazir had hit Nusayba and used ‘inappropriate discipline’ towards her.

Giving evidence behind a screen, Jasmine Hossein said she started a relationship with Haider around 2004 when she was a 19-year-old mum with two young children.

Her voice shaking, Ms Hossain described an incident where Haider snatched her two-year-old daughter from her hands to ‘teach her a lesson’ because she had been crying.

‘He took my daughter from me and took her into the bathroom and locked the door.

‘I could hear her crying inside.

‘I was on this side trying to get inside the door.

‘I heard her cry and then scream,’ said Ms Hossain.

When the door opened, the little girl had a mark under her left eyebrow but Haider claimed she’d slipped in the bathtub and hit her face on the tap.

Haider did not give evidence during the trial but gave an account of events during a police interview.

He claimed he and Ms Amazir had argued about her hitting Nusayba the night before the incident.

‘This has not happened in my care,’ Haider told police.

‘This has obviously happened in the mother’s care.’

Of the incident, Haider said: ‘I heard some noises.

‘Disciplinary noises.

‘Not shouting, more like telling off and I heard a slap.’

Haider had one previous conviction in April 2003 for using threatening, abusive, insulting words or behaviour to cause harassment, alarm, distress.

He also had a caution in April 2011 for a course of conduct that amounted to harassment.

Haider, of Colinton Road, Ilford, denied but was convicted of murder and child cruelty by wilfully assaulting or neglecting Nusayba, between 28 August and 13 September 2019.