Mother describes ‘brutal heartbreak’ after IVF clinic mixed up embryos and she raised another baby

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Two Los Angeles couples experienced a ‘truly impossible’ IVF ‘nightmare’ in which the mothers each gave birth to the other’s biological baby after a fertility lab mixed up their embryos.

Musician Alexander Cardinale, 41, and his wife Daphna, 43, spent months raising another couple’s child before their suspicions that something was wrong grew so great that they performed a DNA test.

That’s how they discovered that their little girl was not, in fact, biologically theirs — and learned that the couple she did belong to had been raising their biological daughter as well.

The parents made the harrowing decision to swap babies when they were four months old, and now that Cardinales are suing their IVF clinic, the California Center for Reproductive Health, and its owner, Dr. Eliran Mor, for medical malpractice, negligence, and fraud.

Daphna opened up on their ordeal in a series of emotional interviews this morning, in which she expressed their ‘devastation’ upon discovering they had been raising someone else’s child, while detailing the couple’s struggle to ‘mourn’ the loss of the baby they had bonded with for months, while trying to embrace their actual daughter, Zoey.

‘Alexander and I are devastated. We missed an entire year of our daughter’s life,’ she told Sky News. 

‘I didn’t get to experience being pregnant with her or birthing her. We missed her entire newborn period. We never saw our baby’s entrance into the world or cuddled her in her first seconds of life. 

‘Our memories of childbirth will always be tainted by the sick reality that our biological child was given to someone else, and the baby that I fought to bring into this world was not mine to keep.

‘There’s no way to describe the pain that we’ve been through.’ 

Speaking to the Today show, Daphna explained that she felt an enormous sense of loss when she had to return the child that she had raised and ‘bonded with’ for four months, explaining: ‘Instead of breastfeeding my own child, I breastfed and bonded with a child I was later force to give away.’ 

In their sit-down with Sky News, Alexander described the situation as a ‘truly impossible nightmare’, voicing his outrage that a ‘trusted’ clinic could have made such a grave error. 

‘We thought we were working within a very professional industry. We trusted these people, and we never even knew that something like this could happen,’ she said. ‘When the truth came to light, it made exchanging the children all the more heartbreaking.’

Daphna also highlighted the damaging affect the twisted realization had on their older daughter when the family discovered the baby they had raised did not belong to them. 

‘The daughter we raised and bonded with was gone after months of affection, but the struggle to guide our older daughter through losing the little sister she fell in love with, and for her to understand the reality of what happened has been brutal.  

‘My heart breaks for her perhaps the most.’ 

Alexander noted that the experience has ‘profoundly changed’ their older daughter – who is now five years old – telling CBS Mornings on Tuesday: ‘Having to tell her that her four-month-old baby sister wasn’t her sister and that there was another baby that… how do you say that to a five year old? 

‘We struggled with that for so long and we finally told her and I think it’s really profoundly changed her.’ 

Daphna gave birth to the other woman’s baby in September 2019, and Alexander says he immediately had a ‘gut feeling’ that the child wasn’t theirs. 

However, his suspicions were not confirmed until the couple did a DNA test on their child two months later – which revealed that the baby they were raising was not biologically related to them. 

After tracking down the couple who were raising their daughter, the two families arranged to switch their babies back in January 2020, four months after both of the women had given birth. 

But while Daphna and Alexander welcomed their biological daughter Zoey with open arms, they admit that giving up the baby they had spent so many weeks bonding with was a devastating loss. 

‘When we brought Zoey home, we didn’t know her,’ Alexander shared. ‘So we had to learn her and then track all of that stuff. 

‘I watched [Daphna] having to switch slowly from caring and tracking for one baby to another. Almost mourning a child, even though she wasn’t [dead].’

The couple – who chose to pursue in-vitro fertilization after struggling to naturally conceive a second child – said they are trying to ‘maintain a really close relationship’ with the other family, although Alexander admitted to Sky News: ‘It’s really hard, because they are total strangers. How do you just become family?’ 

The Cardinales already had a five-year-old daughter when, in September of 2019, Daphna gave birth to another baby girl. 

Alexander told People magazine that he had a ‘primal reaction’ to seeing the baby for the first time, noticing right away that she didn’t look like him or Daphna. 

Though he shook it off in the hospital room, he couldn’t get past the feeling that something wasn’t right. 

At first, Daphna tried to convince Alexander — and herself — that there was nothing wrong. 

‘She looked really different than us. But she felt so familiar to me because I carried her and I birthed her,’ she said. 

But Alexander admitted his ‘brain started going to the dark place’ because they’d used IVF. 

Their suspicions only grew as other people began commenting on how little the baby girl looked like them, with some even remarking that she appeared to be of a different ethnicity.

But nagging doubts aside, the couple fell in love with the little girl, describing their time with her as ‘sheer bliss.’

Then something strange happened that only bolstered their feelings that something was amiss: Their IVF clinic called asking for a photo of their baby.  

Soon, Daphna had purchased a DNA test, and by the time the baby was almost two months old, they’d learned that she wasn’t genetically related to them

‘That’s when our world started falling apart,’ said Alexander.

The couple hired a lawyer, who eventually heard from the IVF clinic confirming that the lab they used had mixed up the embryos. They had ended up with another couple’s embryo, and that couple had ended up with theirs — something they confirmed with DNA testing.  

Once they knew the truth, the Cardinales got to see a photo of their daughter for the first time. They learned that the other couple had named her Zoë, and they decided not to change it.

They began having regular visits with the other couple, even switching babies for short periods of time — but that soon became too hard.  

In January of 2020, when their daughters were four months old, the couples swapped them for good.

While the ordeal was difficult on everyone, the two families have ‘blended’ together, and now spend holidays and birthdays together.  

But the Cardinales are still aiming to hold the clinic responsible, and are suing the Los Angeles-based California Center for Reproductive Health, and Dr. Eliran Mor, for medical malpractice, negligence, and fraud.